I’m sure you heard it before, marriage takes a lot of work. It’s an amazing part of life, but it’s not easy. Most people’s lives are filled with to-do lists a mile long, grocery shopping, kids activities to chauffeur to, and crazy schedules.
No one’s marriage is perfect, or immune to rough patches. We all have our moments. Sometimes, marriage is amazing. Sometimes, it tests every fiber of your being.
What was once adorable and made you giggle and smile like a little school girl? Yeah, that’s annoying now. But it’s okay! We all do it. We change as people, we get stressed out, things aren’t the same as they were before.
But, just because it changes and can be difficult doesn’t mean you can’t improve your marriage. There are a lot of things you can do right now, this very minute, to improve your marriage. Here are 6 ideas to get you started
6 Things You Can do Right Now to Improve Your Marriage
1. Give your spouse YOUR best
I know it’s hard. You’ve got a million and one plates spinning. And more often than not, our husbands get the worn-out, whatever we have left to give, versions of ourselves. Instead of our best.
I’m not saying you have to be happy-go-lucky all the time and never let him see the not-so-great side of you. But, just try to put him first. Marriage is hard work, but it should be a priority. Make putting your best foot forward, for your marriage’s sake, a priority, too.
2. Kiss every day
I read somewhere that if you kiss, daily, for 15 seconds it will improve your relationship. Give it a try! Gross out your kids and kiss your man, for 15 seconds (don’t count, that’s tacky :P). Starting to bicker? Shut him up with a long kiss. I bet you’ll both forget about what you were starting to bicker over.
3. Look into each other’s eyes for 10 minutes
It will probably be awkward as hell to begin with. But, in today’s world, we’ve become so focused on people behind a screen, we often forget about how important eye contact is. Eye contact is an important part of human connection. So, drop the phone and gaze into each other’s eyes.
No talking, no touching, no distractions. It’s amazing how intimate this time can be. While it may feel incredibly awkward at first, just keep at it. Sometimes, just looking at each other can speak volumes about how you feel about one another. You never know. You might remember why you got married in the first place. With just one look.
4. Show him you love him
There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t tell my husband I love him. I’m sure you often tell yours, too. But I’m not talking about the daily habit.
I’m talking about really showing him you love him. It can be a little love note you leave in his car, an out of the blue text to tell him you’re thinking of him, picking up his fave takeout on the way home, or dropping the kids at the grandparents for a bit.
Just something little to show him you’re still in love with him and appreciate him.
5. Laugh together
It’s often said that laughter is the best medicine. I don’t think your marriage is immune to this advice. My husband and I often crack each other up and it keeps our relationship healthy. We laugh, we smile, and it helps all that stress that the outside world causes just melt away.
There’s always a bit of joy found in laughter.
6. Greet your husband like he’s your best friend
How do you say hi to your husband when he comes home? With a frazzled “hey” and a honey-do list a mile long? How do you say hi to your best friend when you see them? I bet it’s not like that.
We all have stressful lives and we all have way too many to-dos. But, drop them. Say hi. Ask him how his day was. Look into his eyes. Make him feel like he actually matters and that he’s more than someone made to complete a to-do list.
Have a rough day? Fine, but try to just say hello and make that moment about him. How his day was. Talk about your days. The to-do list can wait.
Marriage is hard, but these are just a few ways you can improve it. They’re all little things you can do, today, to make your marriage healthier and happier. I implore you to give them a try.
What are some little things you do to keep your relationship healthy?